DubinskysDigest
Adventures of an existential cyclist in his 60's. Member of a generation that squandered its chances to create a new society. A generation that must re-discover itself in our 'third chapter' of life. This blog is dedicated to the Next Lost Generation, the Millennials, that can't get work, start a family or launch a life until they clean up the mess left behind for them by Baby Boomers
Sunday, January 8, 2023
Hey Charlie
Back from the Dead
BACK
FROM THE DEAD: COVID19 RECOVERY STORY
by
BERNIE DUBINSKY
I’ve always thought of myself
lucky, but not until I caught the COVID-19 virus did I realize how lucky.
As a 70 year old overweight guy who
biked a lot but still had all the other risk factors, I thought if I got this
virus, I was a goner. The news of 2020 Pandemic hit me as the start of a
collapse of life as I knew it and I’d assumed part of that deal was, if I
caught the virus, I’d be dead. Made sense.
The virus targeted my generation and was gunning from me, kinda like the
Arnold nut job character in the Terminator.
Every time I looked over my shoulder, there it was, always about to
catch up and when it did; I felt for sure that would be, ‘all she wrote’.
Didn’t
work out quite that simply. Right after
2021 started I took sick – not all the symptoms, but enough that my heart
sank. Testing took forever but a positive
result came back Jan 6th – just in time to watch the Capital get
over-run. I felt like I was being over-run
by an invader as well. Couldn’t sleep……started drifting in and out of consciousness…no
appetite, constipation, non-stop nausea.
Now this was weird, like LSD, Peyote and Mary Jane all wrapped up into
one bad trip. Trouble is, I wanted to hold off taking this trip, I wanted off
this airplane.
Like it
or not, it was on. Nights filled with
bad radio voices, endless channel flipping on unwatchable cable TV and bad
movie ideas from Netflix as I sat in my place zoned out. Until I noticed something. I could hear shouts and cries, e mails from
over my cell phone. All messages from folks in the cooperative I live in. Like
vague chants, me neighbors kept nudging me.
They
were rooting for me to stay alive. The
Terminator caught me, but these guys in my housing cooperative figured I could beat it. Imagine that? These much younger voices drowned out all
the other bad news and self-doubt and old movies. Maybe I was just being a drama queen and this
is not the “Sickness onto Death”?
Turns
out, those voices were right. I started by me getting hungry again. That’s what happened first. In the middle of the night, I grabbed a week
old rotisserie chicken in the fridge that was given me by a neighbor, threw it
in dirty baking dish and warmed it up.
In the dark, at 3 am, I wolfed that chicken down, like a caveman, and
ate half of it – not even putting salt on it, just slicing it with a Swiss Army
penknife. .
First
real food I had eaten in 10 days. Protein
craving was my body’s screaming out for energy for the fight. My body kept telling me; “you’re gonna
fucking die, you moron, if you don’t help me with this virus – forget your
imagined death, I’m struggling here to stay alive.” And that’s what I did. I forget my doom and
gloom stuff and started listening to this my beat-up old body.
Been
symptom free now for 6 days and as the 45th prez just left my old
hometown, DC: other clouds have started to lift. I’m sleeping again, eating and yes, even
going to the bathroom like normal. No
more split consciousness; clarity of thinking has returned. I’m recovering
nicely, according to my HMO. One more
negative test result and I'm good to go.
Imagine that? I’m still alive.
Looks to
be pretty clear for now. Feels great!
New movie playing in the mental VCR, its Charles Dickens Christmas Carol and
I’m Scrooge, back from the dead on Christmas morning. But that could all change with yet another
health reversal. Just hope it’s not like
Arnold always says: “ I’ll be back.”
Thursday, January 5, 2023
My Closeted Affair with a Trumpster
Friday, December 31, 2021
Don't Look Up": The 1% Bet Wrong on Survival
"Don't Look Up" just proves that Karl Marx had it right about U.S. capitalism after all. He predicted, “The last capitalist we hang shall be the one who sold us the rope.” Capitalists love to create speculative bubbles, one after another, where the only losers are the last ones in. Dogecoin, Bitcoin, Game Stop, NINJA mortgage loans that purchase inflated houses and of course there's Anti- Vaxers betting that everyone else is wrong. And so the wheel spins round and round as our sweet speculative economy heralds the noisy end for a declining civilization.
De Caprio's latest film "Don't Look Up" is a huge satire of our entire capitalist upper crust as seen thru thru the prism of eminent, pending disaster. Much like the predictions of the astrological consultant Nostradamus, (famous for his book Les Propheties, published in 1555 ) two astrophysicists in Michigan uncover a huge meteor that's about to hit planet earth and no one cares. At least not until they can look up and see it coming. These Michigan guys are real astrophysicist and they have scientific proof for their claims but that's besides the point.
Earth's rescue hopes are dashed by our need to create yet one more speculative bubble; "How much gold is there in that there meteor?" A venal, much adulated Capitalist clown is willing to bet your life that there's plenty. He browbeats an even more venal US President into calling off a rescue attempt in order to feed a speculative urge with all the 1% ers walking off a cliff like sheep behind him.
You've got Hollywood's very best ensemble cast leading this cast with terrific cameo performances of every box office attraction known to man. Better entertainment simply can not be found.
Its a hell of a plot devices - the world ending. And it would be one terrific parody but for the fact that its way too real to life. We actually live our lives with climate change occurring at an accelerating pace - and we've manage to blow off the threat of doom 'cause we need to. Like a bunch of Republican's who need to deny Biden won or that there was a coupe attempt on Jan 6th - we just can't handle the truth. Lets hope we make out better than the folks in the film.
Sunday, February 3, 2019
The Trump Silver Lining
Monday, January 14, 2019
Eskimo Brothers
Kinda shocking.
Lance had no idea it was my ex-wife he was seeing. We had only been friends for a couple of 3 years and just rode bikes and shared weed at liquoor store stops. I mean, he knew I had an ex-wife; but like, he was all of maybe 40 years old and she had been my ex about that long a period of time. So it seemed; until I relized that Lance was sleeping with her - and that he had no idea.
It happened like this; I was going by my favorite brewery in the Arts District on Alameda and just as I pulled up on my bike, Lance was sharing a glass of wine with Isabella. Sweet, sweet Bella, Bella - my ex-wife and then some. We hadn't spoke directly to one another for 12 years and then BAM - Bella Bella wants to be my friend on Facebook. I chalked it off to starting a new account, but still, why now?
Lance and I traded all kinds of sex stories. His were far more interesting; he could still have plain old vanilla sex 'cause he had that old drive for a kid. Not me. I had a kid, thank you and all the stuff that goes with it; including Bella, Bella. It was swell; for a time until the kid got old enough talk back and I realized that home decorating, conspicuous consumption and first class travel matter not to me. I just wanted to play with a six year old, bike the beach and phone in my work assignments as a feature writer for the LA Times.
We sure did have this great kid - Dani - who liked to work just as hard as his mother and most of all - wanted to make money. None of that was me; but I never did complain. It simply ended, very rocky and with no need for an explaination. Bella, Bella and I had made our contribution to mankind with Dani and it was good. No need to make the patheons of long lived marriages. We both had other things in mind.
So that was 14 years ago and except for an occasional pleasantry during a family encounter; there was no need to explain. Kinda like an old Cole Porter slogan; "Never complain and never explain". (Or was that an old Katherine Hepburn movie?) We were adult who could live with our mistakes - at least that's what I thought.
So you can imagine my suprise at the random encounter of Bella, Bella messaging Lance groin as toasted each other and kissed. It was a tender moment - the sort that she'd love to share; sun godess that she was.
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Cranksgiving Los Angeles 2017
Friday, November 17, 2017
Open Letter to Charlie Rose: Hang in there Fella !
I didn’t understand when you moved to a morning news show on CBS. Why you started doing all these specials, and travel assignments and now, now, you started a ‘week in review’ show – with predictions no less. Silly. You’re like 10 years older than I am – and you had a heart, medical something; I mean, Charlie….WTF. What are you thinking?
And then I heard you interview a fellow reporter, who’s a millennial, and I realized why you need to stick around. I mean the guy was trying to track the Russian investigation and the politics of it all and he regurgitated some press coverage from MSNBC and said nothing about the week’s huge story; the acrimony that’s happening on Capital Hill around the issue. No nose for the news…tone death; clueless. Your questions were the only thing that saved his ass.
If that’s the caliber of your replacements; hang in there Charlie! We especially need you right now. I mean guys like Huntley and Brinkley are the past (and Uncle Walter ate his last tuna fish sandwich), so we need you Charlie. At least you remember who Liz Smith was and know who’s the last ambassador to South Korea and why the Justice Department should never be political. And once more; you still care about these things. People are fast forgetting how to do that; or why you should.
You are daily fighting the aging process to do all that you do, and now I understand why. You gotta keep up ‘cause you’re needed. We need you Charlie to be a journalist. A beacon of truth, justice and even handedness. We need you to train new ones. To set some kind of standards (or at least pretend to). We need you to work just as along as you can; or until Walt Whitman’s words ring out:
O Captain! my Captain! our fearful trip is done,
The ship has weather’d every rack, the prize we sought is won,
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
Forget, the rest of that poem, Charlie. Its strictly not a good tweet. (No one’ll knows the dif anyway.)
Friday, July 7, 2017
THE NOT SO GRAND STORY BEHIND THE WILSHIRE GRAND
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Trapped in a spooky elevator ride into the clouds: Note the faux skyline view. Why not the real?
Clearly, this place got forced open before the finishing touches could be put on it. Its just not ready to accommodate any serious influx of patrons.
According to an employee who knows, the contractor had a finish date that got extended not once, not twice, not even less than a dozen times - more times than anyone could count. Except the courts. The courts forced the opening with heavy fines, and that clearly shows. If the place was not open by a that June day the Mayor proclaimed how great it all is - June 23rd - then there would be hell to pay. Yeah, maybe it WILL BE great, when it gets finished. Til then, its empty, hostile to pedestrian traffic and just plain unfinished.
On my recent Friday afternoon pedestrian visit entering from that grand entrance off Fig, I expected to see the grandeur of a press photo - like below - note the people replicas scurrying below:
Instead, what I saw was and desolate entrance to nothing - without one inviting sign or friendly indicator that the building was even open, let alone, ready for business. You kept wanting to turn around at every step up from the street because the place looked abandoned.
On a Friday afternoon, you would expect the bar on the 70th floor should be humming 'cause of the view, and tourist should have been streaming in, and the ground floor should have been packed with folks drinking and eating at the open eateries. But nothing was happening. Here's one of LA's newest most exciting tourists attractions and no one at the street level even knows its open. No signage. Nothing that invites a pedestrian in.
Not many folks visiting for a space meant to be crowded. Photos below are at 3 pm on a Friday afternoon:
And the InterContinental Hotel has no check-ins:
And the bar's empty too:
Could be a good thing. Forget the signable and the normal crass commercialism tailored at inviting folks in and being friendly. Stay cold and forbidding Wilshire Grand. I like an empty spot to take a date or an out of towner who thinks LA is overcrowded. Let's keep this a secret kinda place - even if it is the tallest whatever, whatever. I like it empty.
Wednesday, March 8, 2017
Cruising Downtown LA's Art District - Late Nite
Sunday, January 1, 2017
DubinskysDigest: The Cut-Rate Sugar Daddy
Being cheap is a way of life for me and my much younger paramour. Partly out of necessity but largely because we compete with each other to see who can be smarter about not spending money or who can get something for less. Our motto is: " The trouble with money is, you can only spend it once."
For example, Whole Foods Supermarket. Its a rip off - everyone knows that, especially in their prepared food section - where a hot plate meal can cost as much as dinner at the Four Seasons. And you still won't have enough to eat. So we figured out that if you stuff a lot of rice and curry in a large soup container it costs much less ( no weighing by the pound ) and you can have more than enough left overs for the next day. That's a good example of being cheap/boarder line psychotic that we're talking about.
We take buses everywhere - me buying the monthly unlimited senior pass for $20 of course. And we would sooner choke each other to death rather than NOT purchase the advertised Subway Sandwich of the day - its always at least 50 cents cheaper. We almost never eat out - unless its Norm's and we buy all our veggies at the 99 cent store - but never the frozen ones (they come from China). Our biggest thrill is use every last coupon we can clip, find on the street or at the supermarket. Of course we bicycle a lot (to save on gas) and sometime it gets kinda tiring going that extra 3 miles to the right supermarket to redeem those coupons.
Now this doesn't exactly fit the paradigm of big spender 'older man' with his oh so young, voluptuous girlfriend dressed in revealing lingerie and giving a Lolita lick on her lollipop. And that's because that is not exactly our situation. I ended up dating my biking buddy - for a number of reasons - the chief being she's a pretty women and I found her irresistible; the other one is that she's very cheap. Which means we always enjoy the same things together - like biking to the beach, walking along the sand and eating at little Formica topped joints in Koreatown where the menu only gives you half the story. (Ya gotta read Johnathan Gold in the free LA Weekly to find out the rest.)
Being cheap is not just a Sunday affair with us. It extends into our sex life together as well. Now while it is true that sex is free, contraception is not. Although condoms are sometimes free at health clinics, it always seems that they are never free when you really need them. So we resolved not spend that money by resorting to certain, uh..... 'deviate' practices; which I'm certain my readers are already very familiar with so I need not belabor that point.
We find that this a very satisfactory. if not satisfying, relationship that puts a much needed new spin on the 'older man' cliche that helps us escape the creepy dimensions of a May-December relationship. No one ever accuses my friend of being in it 'just for the money' and conversely, the 'dirty old man' baggage doesn't quite fit on a bicycle. We do attract quite a bit of attention when we she calls me 'Dad' and we have a lengthy colloquium on the joys on incest at parties or other public gatherings. ( That's one taboo that still manages to raise an eyebrow.) Mostly we just fun about things like why my girlfriend never needs to buy lottery tickets. My life insurance policy, that names her as the beneficiary, is a much surer bet.
Monday, September 5, 2016
The Cut-Rate Sugar Daddy
THE CUT-RATE SUGAR DADDY
Being cheap is a way of life for me and my much younger paramour. Partly out of necessity but largely because we compete with each other to see who can be smarter about not spending money or who can get something for less. Our motto is: " The trouble with money is, you can only spend it once."
For example, Whole Foods Supermarket. Its a rip off - everyone knows that, especially in their prepared food section - where a hot plate meal can cost as much as dinner at the Four Seasons. And you still won't have enough to eat. So we figured out that if you stuff a lot of rice and curry in a large soup container it costs much less ( no weighing by the pound ) and you can have more than enough left overs for the next day. That's a good example of being cheap/boarder line psychotic that we're talking about.
We take buses everywhere - me buying the monthly unlimited senior pass for $20 of course. And we would sooner choke each other to death rather than NOT purchase the advertised Subway Sandwich of the day - its always at least 50 cents cheaper. We almost never eat out - unless its Norm's and we buy all our veggies at the 99 cent store - but never the frozen ones (they come from China). Our biggest thrill is use every last coupon we can clip, find on the street or at the supermarket. Of course we bicycle a lot (to save on gas) and sometime it gets kinda tiring going that extra 3 miles to the right supermarket to redeem those coupons.
Now this doesn't exactly fit the paradigm of big spender 'older man' with his oh so young, voluptuous girlfriend dressed in revealing lingerie and giving a Lolita lick on her lollipop. And that's because that is not exactly our situation. I ended up dating my biking buddy - for a number of reasons - the chief being she's a pretty women and I found her irresistible; the other one is that she's very cheap. Which means we always enjoy the same things together - like biking to the beach, walking along the sand and eating at little Formica topped joints in Koreatown where the menu only gives you half the story. (Ya gotta read Johnathan Gold in the free LA Weekly to find out the rest.)
Being cheap is not just a Sunday affair with us. It extends into our sex life together as well. Now while it is true that sex is free, contraception is not. Although condoms are sometimes free at health clinics, it always seems that they are never free when you really need them. So we resolved not spend that money by resorting to certain, uh..... 'deviate' practices; which I'm certain my readers are already very familiar with so I need not belabor that point.
We find that this a very satisfactory. if not satisfying, relationship that puts a much needed new spin on the 'older man' cliche that helps us escape the creepy dimensions of a May-December relationship. No one ever accuses my friend of being in it 'just for the money' and conversely, the 'dirty old man' baggage doesn't quite fit on a bicycle. We do attract quite a bit of attention when she calls me 'Dad' and we have a lengthy colloquium on the joys on incest at parties or other public gatherings. ( That's one taboo that still manages to raise an eyebrow.) Mostly we just fun about things like why my girlfriend never needs to buy lottery tickets. My life insurance policy, that names her as the beneficiary, is a much surer bet.
Sunday, May 8, 2016
I Scoffed at Jackie Kennedy
Saturday, December 6, 2014
Laughter that Can't be Captured in DNA
So my older (like way older) brother Martin, calls me up to say that he sent a DNA sample swab away for testing and he knows for certain that 'our' father Jack, was really NOT his father. Now that piece of 67 year old news has many, many heavy family consequences OR would have if it were not for the following facts:
- Father Jack was a terrible example as a parent. He abandon our Mom with 3 small kids, never paid child support, although he did always make a good living as a Jeweler. All of us are doting parents and kinda feel sorry for the guy - now that he's dead anyway.
- We have all lived much of our lives successfully, to one degree or another, with adult children of our own who share that success, to one degree or another, and all doing pretty well.
- Our poor Mom is kinda played out in a nursing home with many of her facilities gone and she clings to dear life without really being aware of it. News of her supposed youthful 'infidelities' would not send her into any sort of indignation, as life has already handed her much more serious indignities to cope with.
- My 'baby' sister Sue (two year's younger) and I look a lot like our father Jack, so we saved on DBA swabs and postage. Ancestry genetics just don't hold the fascination they do for our older brother. (What difference does it make if you gotta make the best of what you got?) And besides, we can't stop howling long enough to do anything. After all these years, to find out it really WAS the milkman (as my brother now believes) well, there are no words to describe it.
*But while the proportion of one’s inheritance from parents is fixed by exact necessity, the fraction from grandparents is governed by chance. For each of the chromosomes you inherit from a given parent, you have a 50 percent chance of gaining a copy from your grandfather and a 50 percent chance of gaining a copy from your grandmother.
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
San Pedro on a Bike: Disney World for Broke Folk
Now that a day trip to Disney in Anaheim can cost a family of 4 over $ 125 dollars, you might want to plan a bike visit to LA's port town, San Pedro where everything is free or less than 5 bucks. Here is a trip into LA's past that no-one but the locals know about. San Pedro reminds me of San Francisco in the 70's before it got yuppified. One bed-room rents are still less than $ 750 close to the water and the neon signs are from the 50's when folks didn't know images of an American Indian with exaggerated features just aren't P.C.
I mean to say that San Pedro still hasn't been 'done' - re-invented, revitalized or gentrified. Its like it always was ONLY now you can bike it with ease because they built a bike path that goes from the Cruise Ship port at the base of the City all the way around to Cabrillo Beach. Here's a map that shows what all you can see in a one day visit complements of www.sanpedro.com
The bike path is clear and new and has some terrific views of the entire port.
. There are lots of stops along the way and you can get off the bike path to explore parts of the port that have been abandoned - things like Warehouse No.1 that just beg to be converted to into artists lofts with waterfront views.